Why confidence and communication skills?

 

UNICEF, UNESCO and the WHO list the ten core life skill strategies and techniques as: problem solving, critical thinking, effective communication skills, decision-making, creative thinking, interpersonal relationship skills, self- awareness building skills, empathy, and coping with stress and emotions.

 

The most important skills to master in life is that of COMMUNICATION - how you communicate with others and more importantly, how you communicate to yourself; your inner voice, which chatters away constantly, telling us positive and negative things about ourself, dictates how we think, feel, and behave. 

 

Research has shown that by the age of 7 years, your core values and beliefs have been set, determined and influenced by your environment and upbringing. These are stored in the library that is your subconscious mind. So, whenever we come across a new situation, your brain searches through the library to see where you have experienced a similar situation and you end up thinking and behaving in a similar way to that previous time. When your neural pathways keep firing in the same way, you continue to think and behave in the same way; you get “stuck in a rut”. 

 

“If you want a new outcome, you will have to break the habit
of being yourself, and reinvent a new self.”

- Joe Dispenza

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Your feelings (emotional response) are determined by the way you think, and this in turn creates chemical reactions in your body. These chemical reactions are important for your survival, to enable you to respond to threats by either fighting, running away (flight) or freezing. However, these chemical reactions are only beneficial to you for short periods of time. If your thinking means that your emotional response is constant, you end up in a state of overwhelm, as your body ends up in constant fight, flight or freeze mode. Soon, these chemical reactions start to have an effect on your physicality and you can start to see autoimmune responses, aches and pains, depletion in energy, abnormal cell growth, general dis-ease. 

 

“The sorrow which has no vent in tears may make other organs weep” 

- Henry Maudsley

 

This is why it is important to explore what is stored in your subconscious mind, address any unresolved trauma or upset and update your thinking and subsequent responses with beliefs that serve you better at this point in your life.